Adopted children contacting their biological parents has been encouraged by many - but it may not always be a good idea.
For example, a woman who gave up her illegitimate child for adoption in 1969 said she was dragged through a series of hellish experiences - and is suing two New York hospitals for allegedly releasing confidential information about her.
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The hospitals provided her biological son information he used to track her down. She said the experience reopened the psychological wounds she suffered at the time, the New York Post reported Sunday.
Unmarried and pregnant at 18, the woman alleged in her lawsuit that she went through a wrenching ordeal when her parents yanked her out of Barnard College and kept her and her pregnancy hidden from family and friends.
She eventually had the child and gave it up for adoption.
When her son, William Jacob, was born on May 26, 1969, his mother said in her lawsuit, her parents, doctors, hospital staff and priests all urged her to give up her baby, saying it would be best for the child.
She agreed, even though she said she "bitterly opposed the decision."
The experience, she said, was so traumatizing that she tried to void the adoption but failed — and as a result spent the next two years in therapy.
Now, thanks to the actions of New York Foundling and St. Vincent's Hospital in Manhattan in giving the son she hasn't seen since he was born information that allowed him to track her down, she has been forced to relive the agony she endured all those years ago.
In a federal lawsuit that seeks more than $100,000, she accuses Foundling and St. Vincent's of breaking their legal duty to keep her identity confidential. However, she told the Post, she is considering dropping her lawsuit for fear of harming her son "Billy" and her own family. She said she started the case to teach St. Vincent's and Foundling a lesson.
Also unaware of the lawsuit or his birth mother's emotional turmoil was the woman's son, William O'Connell, now 36, who is married and the father of 8- and 6-year-old boys. He told the Post his search for her was never an emotional decision, but rather was prompted by concern for his own children and his desire to know any information about his mother's health history.
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